TED Talk-Helen Fisher

Picking only one talk to blog on became more of a task than I had expected. There are many interesting talks available, but after looking through and reading about some of them I chose to listen to the entire talk of Helen Fisher about The Science of Love and the Future of Women. She had many key points in her talk, some I agreed with and some I did not.

The beginning of her talk was based on the question of what is romantic love. Many people would have different answers for this one question. Her answers seemed to be some of the most popular (focusing on a person, intense energy, craving them, obsessed). To me, I feel that romantic love is a lot of things put together to create the passion a person has for another. The main answer I would have to give would be that romantic love deals with someones feelings towards another, not necessarily their sex drive and energy. Fisher states that "romantic love is not an emotion-it's a drive." Perhaps she is right, but what pushes the drive, your emotions!

Fisher stated that women are moving forward in the modern time. I believe she is very right. There used to be a time when all the women of the household did were to clean, cook, and play house all day. In the modern day, the standard households have double incomes, which means that the man is working as well as the woman. Men used to have the right to say they were strong and could work on heavy and more extensive projects than women, but in the modern time it is nothing to see a woman working on a truck or helping out in the yard. As Ted Hughes (spelling?) says, "we are like two feet, we need each other to get ahead." I believe this statement is a perfect fit to describe how men and women work together. The man needs the woman, and the woman also needs the man. Neither should be considered better than the other because without one another there would be missing pieces.

During her talk, Fisher stated that people can have more than one romantic relationship, I believe that this is not so. If you have a deep attachment to one person, there should be no reason to lay in bed next to your loved one thinking about another person. To me, that seems to be false, because if that is so, you don't have a deep attachment to the one you say you do while looking at ours for the pleasure you are not receiving. Fisher made many great points but at the same time seemed very bias towards women. It is true we are moving up in the modern world, but at the same time it does not make us any better than when the men were high on their pedestals.

"A world without love is a deadly place."-Helen Fisher